A friend of mine and his wife came for a visit. They looked older than the last time I saw them. Who wouldn't? Eight years is a long time.
After the usual "how are you's and stuff like that, my friend looked at me and said, "Sally, you look old!"Shocks! I would have retaliated. I would have said "but you look older" but I didn't. Not my style. So I just smiled.
Sensing how I felt, his wife told me this story: A new member of their congregation was introduced to them. After the introduction, her husband looked at the lady and blurted out: "You are thin!" to which she replied: "You are rude!"